Yesterday, I was peacefully sitting in Dunkin Donuts, sipping my coffee and doing some writing (working on yesterday’s blog post and fooling around with some character development for a short story) while waiting for my daughter’s dance class to finish. I had the misfortune of having my quiet morning interrupted by two men discussing their political views.
I use the term “discussing” loosely. It was closer to one of the men exploding, while the other sat silently (except for the incessant ringing of his phone). I was mostly able to tune it out, until the one man said, loud enough for all of Dunkin Donuts to hear, “Anyone they put up has a chance to finally get that a**hole out of there.” Having heard the rest of the conversation, I was already aware that the “a**hole” to whom he was referring was President Obama. He followed by offering his opinions on the best candidates, emphasizing that the few women he mentioned were, in some way, either too stupid or too weak for the job.
I found myself, besides just feeling irritated that I had to be in earshot of the conversation, upset by the tone. It’s true, I don’t always agree with whatever those in government say or do. But to resort to name-calling? That doesn’t help anyone.
When we resort to name-calling, we reduce people to no more than the things about them we dislike. We separate ourselves from them by reminding ourselves that we are not those things. It makes it easier to fuel hate and anger when we are able to think about someone else as less. Not only that, we justify ourselves. We tell ourselves that it’s okay to call someone an a**hole if he’s acting like one (or, at least, what we think one acts like). And let’s be clear on this, Christians are no better about this than anyone else. Sometimes, we’re worse.
It’s no wonder that our children call each other names at school. It’s no wonder that our youth are depressed enough to commit violent acts against themselves and others. When we, the adults, cannot set a better example, then what hope have we? We can institute anti-bullying rules, campaign against name-calling, and even blame the victims. None of it does any good if our children are hearing us dehumanize others.
One thing we need to keep in mind is that no matter a person’s behavior, he or she is still a person. That carries with it the necessary understanding that even “a**holes” are created in the image of G-d and loved by the G-d who became flesh and died for us. We can still dislike things a person does; but we must separate that from who the person is and teach our children to do the same.
william wallace
A comment about anothers phone call but a cover
in insulting BARACK. Your behaving as an racist.
Yet having too much religious guilt in giving a
outright opinion to your religious brainwashing.
Are you a racist due to a religious brainwashing
or a natural result in unwanted genetic pooling?.
In my opinion your not the racist at heart / but
in having been in company of racists where being
your having been contaminated / badly influenced.
The best way dealing with such is staying out of
the company of racists /or in such company raise
your voice against racism / making it very clear
where you stand. That racism is the devil’s work.
writersblock77
Wow, William.
I’ll never understand why being critical of barack makes me a racist but being critical of GWB makes me an American voicing her opinion.
apparently it’s okay to call Bush Chimpy McHitler but not okay to ever disparrage someone with slightly more color in their skin pigment.
Amy
I probably should have addressed that, too. I was never a big fan of President Bush. But I never called him names, either, and it made me just as uncomfortable to see others do it. I’m going to have to be aware of my failure to call out those with whom I agree.
I’m not much on politics in general, but I do prefer an overall tone of respect.
wRitErsbLock
I’m just tired of being called a racist. I disagree with policies. When last I checked, policies have absolutely nothing to do with ethnicity.
Amy
Ha, yeah, that’s like saying I’m a misogynist because I don’t agree with whatever comes out of Hilary Clinton’s mouth. Good point.
Amy
Changed the link for the feed. I hope that you’re still able to find it. 🙂