This morning, I read this fantastic piece by Shawn Smucker over at A Deeper Story. What makes it good is not that Shawn’s bragging about being more noble and being the perfect white ally. It’s good because he’s confronted his own thinking and made real change.
This is what justice looks like.
If every single one of us did what Shawn did–examine our own motivations and actions–we could alter the whole system. We could make a place that’s safe for everyone. It doesn’t take much, really, to begin. We don’t have to start with protest marches. If you’re at that point, then by all means, go ahead and join in the activism. That’s needed too. But maybe you are someone who needs to start smaller. Maybe you just need to start by noticing. Shawn writes,
I probably wouldn’t have noticed these boys before. Probably would have just drove [sic] on by. But it will be a long time before I see a young black man walking down the street and don’t notice, a long time before I don’t think of Trayvon Martin.
That’s one thing that has changed for me, too. When I was at the store the other day, I was in a long line. Ahead of me was a grandmother and a five-year-old boy. As we waited, I chatted with his grandma about little boys and girls and how wonderful they are. The little boy was sitting in the cart behind a giant box. He peeked around it and grinned at me. I told him I thought the box was the best part, and he agreed. Then he showed me his teeth and said he had two brand-new ones; he asked if I liked them, and I assured him that I did. Like many kids his age, he was completely irresistible in his cuteness, concerned only with being a “big kid” and as yet untainted by the world. He wasn’t yet worried that a white lady might not like him, might not be a safe person for him to talk to in the store, might judge him or avoid him based on the color of his skin. To him, I was just the nice woman who liked his grown-up teeth. After they left, I couldn’t help thinking about the young man he will one day become and the survival skills he will need.
That’s not the world he should have to live in.
Little boys should be able to grow into men without worrying that the clothes they wear could brand them as being “suspicious” or “hiding something.” They should be able to walk home from the store or a friend’s house without being stopped and questioned by police. They should be able to express their grief over a court ruling without people assuming the next step is rioting and violence.
Like Shawn, I notice more now. I’ve had a tendency to believe that as long as I was doing my best to not be a jerk, I was doing okay. It’s not quite enough, though, because avoidance of negative behaviors and beliefs isn’t the same as exhibiting positive ones. My interactions with the little boy at the store made me consider that. Engaging him in conversation, looking into his eyes, I saw him; I understood a little bit about what he likes (being big and talking and making boxes into hiding spaces). I don’t want to forget that moment, because the minute I forget, I allow myself not to notice people. I allow myself to go back to not being a jerk instead of actively being kind and loving. I fail to ask what it’s like to live in someone else’s shoes.
I don’t want to forget about Trayvon Martin, either.
What would it take for you to really notice people and to think about them differently from the way you did before? Would it take talking to them and learning about what they like, what they know, and what they hope for? Would it take seeing their potential to do amazing things? Shawn recounts the story of a local young man making a heroic rescue. His closing paragraph contains the following sentence:
I’ve never driven past a young black man on the street and thought, He could be a hero.
What about you? Have you ever had that thought pass through your mind? I can’t help wondering how the world would be different if every time we saw a young person–any young person, regardless of who that person is–we saw that person’s capacity for goodness and heroism.
When that day comes, surely we will see true justice.
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This week’s post is part of the Creative Buzz Hop at http://penpaperpad.com and http://gettingliteral.com. The theme this week is “justice.” Go visit either of the links above to read more.
Keith Rowley
Interesting post. I liked this but being a strong introvert I wish there was some way to honor and see all people without having to actually interact with them. Lol. I know that sound bad but it isn’t meant as anything against people. I just have to interact with them all day at work and have very little energy left for voluntarily doing so when I don’t have to.
Amy
I completely understand. I get to work from home and only be with one 7-year-old, so I don’t mind being out an interacting. It would be different if I had the kind of job where I was with people all the time, though. I probably wouldn’t have talked to the people ahead of me in line if it weren’t for the fact that the little boy was just so darn cute that I couldn’t resist.
Michelle Liew
I think the world is just much to clouded by its biases….and it gives justice a really shaky balance! Thanks for linking up this week! Will be sharing your post on the Creative Buzz Hop Times! http://www.scoop.it/t/creative-buzz-hop
Amy
Cool! 🙂
TA Woods
Thank you for this piece. For me, the biggest take-away from this was things haven’t changed as much as they could have by now, howeveople start to critically think and analyze their thought processes- this is where change truly begins. I hope regardless of race there’s more around the country becoming aware, who decide to share their introspections with others as you have.
Amy
Me too! I hope that people are beginning to do that introspection.
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